Yesterday, on July 1st,  I turned 57—a number that feels both humbling and motivating. As I write this on a birthday weekend getaway in Whistler, honestly, I can hardly believe it. I am turning that big a number tomorrow. Most days, I still feel like I’m in my late twenties, until I catch my reflection in the mirror and do a double-take. Each year is a reminder to pause and reflect on the lessons that shape how I live, lead, and connect.

In my work with leaders across industries, I’ve seen again and again that it’s never about perfection; it’s about showing up with intention and courage, every single day. Over the past few decades, I’ve learned that the fundamentals don’t really change. Whether you’re guiding a team or trying to be your best self, it comes down to a few core practices that, when done consistently, make all the difference. 

So to mark another lap around the sun, I’d love to share a few reflections and practical ideas. Below you’ll find five tips for leading your best life and seven tips that can help you be an effective leader—insights I’ve practiced, taught, and seen transform people and teams. I hope they inspire you wherever you are on your journey.

5 Tips for Leading Your Best Life

1. Get clear on what “enough” looks like.
   Take the time to define what success means to you—not what the world says it should be. When you know your own benchmarks, it’s easier to let go of constant comparison.
2. Guard your energy like it matters—because it does.
   Pay attention to where you feel drained versus energized. Protect your time and say “no” more often to things that don’t align with your priorities.
3. Take care of your health, even when life gets hectic.
   Small choices—going for a walk, eating well, getting enough rest—add up. Your future self will thank you.
4. Do a weekly review and preview.
   Set aside time each week to reflect on what went well, note your wins, and assess whether you accomplished your most important priorities. Then look ahead: decide what matters most in the week to come and set your focus. This simple practice keeps you grounded, intentional, and clear.
5. Keep learning.
   Whether it’s a new skill, a fresh perspective, or an old hobby you’ve set aside, growth keeps life interesting.

7 Must-Do Tips for Being an Effective Leader

1. Be clear about what good looks like.
   People do their best work when they understand what’s expected. Spell it out—don’t assume it’s obvious.
2. Listen fully.
   When someone comes to you, give them your full attention. Being present is one of the simplest ways to build trust.
3. Walk your talk.
   If you expect accountability, model it yourself. If you value respect, demonstrate it in how you treat others.
4. Give feedback often.
   Don’t save it for performance reviews. Share observations in real time, whether it’s to recognize progress or offer guidance.
5. Celebrate progress.
   Acknowledging small wins keeps people engaged and motivated. It doesn’t have to be complicated—a simple thank you goes a long way.
6. Take care of yourself.
   Leading well starts with self-awareness and self-care. If you’re exhausted or stretched thin, it shows up in how you lead.
7. Make time to reflect.
   Ask yourself regularly: What’s working? What needs to change? What can I do better? This practice fuels growth and better decisions.